“The heart of her husband doth safely trust
in her,”
This is issue is so very vital for a
relationship that is built in Christ. How trustworthy are you? Down deep inside
your partner knows that he is safe and can trust you with anything in his life.
His children, his health, his love, his very being are all safe and can be
trusted in your care. The only way this is even possible is if you are trusting
in the Lord Jesus yourself. We will all make mistakes. That’s just a given. But
when our heart is right, our actions will prove it.
When a relationship has no trust, there is no
good relation. There never can be. To make ourselves trustworthy is to come to
the cross and repent of our unworthiness and receive Christ, not just in our
heart, but into our whole life. A complete makeover! Only then can we be the woman
that God wants and our husband trusts.
Why is this important?
“…so that he shall have no need of spoil.”
The word ‘spoil’ is the key to understanding
this phrase. In this case, spoil means the goods that one receives when going
out to steal, to plunder, to take from someone else. Is your husband finding it
easier to be away from home? Does your husband have to go elsewhere to supply
his need of food, shelter, clothing, and even intimacy rather than at home with
you? Why? Most generally it is because he has no trust in you to supply that
need.
And then you ask, “Well, what about my needs?”
Yes, what about them? When you committed yourself to this relationship, you
promised that you would be in it for the betterment of the other person. If you
cannot trust a person, then don’t ever get into a relationship with them. We
are called to serve, sacrifice, and give to the other in this relationship.
When we do this with our whole heart, and the other person is just as committed
to the Lord Jesus, then it will bring fulfillment of our own needs and we will
never have to wonder if our own needs will be met. A sharing together as we
trust together, makes for a fulfilling relationship as God designed it to be.
Selfishness, wanting our own rights, is what
kills a relationship. It breaks trust, and slowly the relationship will fall
apart.
As women, that God created to be strong, we
have the natural ability and talent to nurture, to provide the things needed for
our families to be healthy and cared for. Do we enjoy it? Not always. There are
many times when we are overwhelmed, we are exhausted, and we just plain don’t
like or enjoy the work that needs to be done.
Many times we bring this on ourselves because
we demand perfection from ourselves. We plan too many things in one day to
accomplish. It is time we stop and reevaluate just what is really necessary and
plan accordingly. I like to sit and read just as much as anyone, but just
reading all day and not providing for my family is not what God called me to
do. We provide what is necessary for health and happiness and schedule a time
for reading. Balancing our schedules is key to our own fulfillment.
Does your husband trust you to create that
balance of work and play, not just for yourself, but also for the whole family?
Yes, work may need to be done, but does it all have to be done in one day?
Today, stop and check yourself to see if you
can be trusted. Ask yourself why someone should even trust you with the awesome
responsibility of what God has called a woman to be. You are created a woman
for a reason…God has a plan. Are we fighting it or are we walking in that plan
so that He can be glorified?
I fought God for many years because I was determined
to not like housework or being at home. I was frustrated because I couldn’t do
what someone else was doing. I wanted to be free and able to go places, and
sleep all night just once for a change. The Lord brought me up short and said, “Then
why did you get married?” That is a good question. Marriage is not for
ourselves as much as it is for others. God calls us into that to shape us and
mold us to what we need to be. When we are fully committed to the Lord Jesus
Christ, then it is never what we want. It is all about what God has called us
to be. It will not always be easy, but those are the times when we learn to
once again not depend on ourselves, but it is only God!!
Let’s pick up ourselves and repent from our
selfishness so we can walk in the calling that God has created us to be. We are
vital to the lives He has entrusted us with. Are we ready to be entrusted with
them? Can you be trusted?
