Trust - Being Trustworthy (Prov. 31 Series)

“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,”

This is issue is so very vital for a relationship that is built in Christ. How trustworthy are you? Down deep inside your partner knows that he is safe and can trust you with anything in his life. His children, his health, his love, his very being are all safe and can be trusted in your care. The only way this is even possible is if you are trusting in the Lord Jesus yourself. We will all make mistakes. That’s just a given. But when our heart is right, our actions will prove it.

When a relationship has no trust, there is no good relation. There never can be. To make ourselves trustworthy is to come to the cross and repent of our unworthiness and receive Christ, not just in our heart, but into our whole life. A complete makeover! Only then can we be the woman that God wants and our husband trusts.

Why is this important?

“…so that he shall have no need of spoil.”

The word ‘spoil’ is the key to understanding this phrase. In this case, spoil means the goods that one receives when going out to steal, to plunder, to take from someone else. Is your husband finding it easier to be away from home? Does your husband have to go elsewhere to supply his need of food, shelter, clothing, and even intimacy rather than at home with you? Why? Most generally it is because he has no trust in you to supply that need.

And then you ask, “Well, what about my needs?” Yes, what about them? When you committed yourself to this relationship, you promised that you would be in it for the betterment of the other person. If you cannot trust a person, then don’t ever get into a relationship with them. We are called to serve, sacrifice, and give to the other in this relationship. When we do this with our whole heart, and the other person is just as committed to the Lord Jesus, then it will bring fulfillment of our own needs and we will never have to wonder if our own needs will be met. A sharing together as we trust together, makes for a fulfilling relationship as God designed it to be.

Selfishness, wanting our own rights, is what kills a relationship. It breaks trust, and slowly the relationship will fall apart.

As women, that God created to be strong, we have the natural ability and talent to nurture, to provide the things needed for our families to be healthy and cared for. Do we enjoy it? Not always. There are many times when we are overwhelmed, we are exhausted, and we just plain don’t like or enjoy the work that needs to be done.

Many times we bring this on ourselves because we demand perfection from ourselves. We plan too many things in one day to accomplish. It is time we stop and reevaluate just what is really necessary and plan accordingly. I like to sit and read just as much as anyone, but just reading all day and not providing for my family is not what God called me to do. We provide what is necessary for health and happiness and schedule a time for reading. Balancing our schedules is key to our own fulfillment.

Does your husband trust you to create that balance of work and play, not just for yourself, but also for the whole family? Yes, work may need to be done, but does it all have to be done in one day?

Today, stop and check yourself to see if you can be trusted. Ask yourself why someone should even trust you with the awesome responsibility of what God has called a woman to be. You are created a woman for a reason…God has a plan. Are we fighting it or are we walking in that plan so that He can be glorified?

I fought God for many years because I was determined to not like housework or being at home. I was frustrated because I couldn’t do what someone else was doing. I wanted to be free and able to go places, and sleep all night just once for a change. The Lord brought me up short and said, “Then why did you get married?” That is a good question. Marriage is not for ourselves as much as it is for others. God calls us into that to shape us and mold us to what we need to be. When we are fully committed to the Lord Jesus Christ, then it is never what we want. It is all about what God has called us to be. It will not always be easy, but those are the times when we learn to once again not depend on ourselves, but it is only God!!

Let’s pick up ourselves and repent from our selfishness so we can walk in the calling that God has created us to be. We are vital to the lives He has entrusted us with. Are we ready to be entrusted with them? Can you be trusted?